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Psychologist On How To Be More Empathic | Empathetic

Dr. Maika Steinborn 119 views

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This truly helps! I’m a local thinker so this is perfect
Comment from : @oliviagaxiola

Love the 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸☘️🍀🍀the flowers😊💕💕💕
Comment from : @CynthiawatySyafei

I must give little empathy to me too I gave many to others I have no more leftas we know
Comment from : @mariatriantafyllou-g3d

Thank you
Comment from : @Whodaykid

You are such a sweetheart 💕
Comment from : @kuehnel16

I feel like I've lost touch with my emotional side, everything I do is programed I just do things without meaning, I've apologized to people numerous times without even meaning it, I'm having trouble being present in the moment I feel very dead honestly Watching this video is my first step to get my life back
Comment from : @2stonesmockingbird191

My girlfriend wants me to be empathic and less narcissit and i disagreed that i am not an narcissit but now i get that i was listening to reply and not to understand, which hurted her feelings alot and now i've realised i was a narcissit brI'll learn to be empathic and communicate so i can give her all my love and care, wish me the best, i need this!
Comment from : @19OMMHATRE

Thank you so much I genuinely did not understand empathy When confronted with feelings, I just listened silently and gave them a solution (of God and Jesus Christ) and that was it I genuinely didn't care But now I truly understand empathy Thank you
Comment from : @LukeMcQuain

How can you be more empathetic you have it or you dont
Comment from : @Christinetuite

I have been told i am not emphatic, I know i am not but this helps me understand and improve
Comment from : @cata-vq4wj

Thank you
Comment from : @nuttyoncrypto9863

Interesting People who grow up without love don't understand empathy Seems like a good start
Comment from : @jessieochoa128

Well done video, thank you!!
Comment from : @rebekahfunches6876

I really loved the content thank youbrBut how should we end the dialouge when we are just listenning? It seems unfinished!
Comment from : @mehdisilavi8884

thank you so much ma'am! unfortunately i lost the ability to empathize due to excessive studying it's time to return back to society
Comment from : @chemist_biologist

Thank you for sharing this It's a skill I want to learn I'm almost 60yrs old, am I undoing a lot of unhelpful patterns of trauma, in defence mode As I undo this pattern, with the help of a loving partner, I am more open to new development, in this case, how to be empathic Previously I didn't even know such a thing existed, it was completely off my radar I am finally ready to sincerely reach out to others So I am so pleased that you are sharing the technique As I train, I expect it will become more rich and deeper❤
Comment from : @amandamassyn7227

Empathy is a grossly overrated quality I promise not to off load what burdens me on you and all I ask return is that you don't share what's troubling you with me Also don't expect people to read and/or understand your feelings and emotionsjust be an adult and say what's on your mind
Comment from : @peterreed9566

thanks for teaching me how to be human
Comment from : @miurajpgamer

I thought empathy was feeling someones hurti think i had empathy and compassion blurred together like they were the same thing So empathy is basically just a way to listen helpfully?
Comment from : @stephenwhite5444

❤
Comment from : @alkalobo7643

Thank you for this video 🙏🏼
Comment from : @mksap144

This helps thank you❤
Comment from : @drtazzz9352

You’re like a genius
Comment from : @phillipmacgregor7450

This was a good reminder Thanks 👍
Comment from : @johnnystrom7803

Thanks
Comment from : @robertcook8929

Had an argument with my wife so it led me to thisand now scaring the hell out of me I love my wife and the argument is simply because i missedbrEmpathy Instead of providing empathy i was giving solutions right away that made her feel alone So thanks for this I hope she be patient with me learning this
Comment from : @jim9093

Excellent! Thank you
Comment from : @118steelplayer

Thank you so much for this video Thinking back on things ive done in the past and things i still continue to do has made me realise ive not been the most empathetic, and overall not been a good person to others This has led me to feel a lot of guilt and shame, and almost helpless fearing that im this terrible irredeemable person who deserves bad things to happen to them I have tried to work on myself a lot, but sometimes find myself slipping back into my old ways of viewing and doing things Seeing that many other people are dealing with the same thing makes me feel less alone❤
Comment from : @carolinefawn

Love 😇
Comment from : @yvngscrvpe

Hi, thanks this is so helpful for my pastoral type work
Comment from : @CazBx

This was a very good lesson on empathy
Comment from : @martialmusic

Is it still empathetic to ask the other person what they like the approach to be for the issue? For instance, how would you want me to make you feel validated?"
Comment from : @davissonnguyen

May you remember your magic today!
Comment from : @GodHelpMe369

I really operate on this principle— until I was burned by a narcissist
Comment from : @markjlabella8869

👍
Comment from : @divinepower8528

I am a sociopath I don't understand why people want to be as far away from be as possible, I only know they do I don't understand why people hate me so much I just don't understand Why do people hate me for something that I never chose to be nor I can change? So unfair I never even had a chance at life from the start
Comment from : @PurePain_1

Using this as a new social experiment for getting better at empathy instead of just saying "You'll be alright" or "It's nothing big"
Comment from : @Phykx-ed_Up

I hope this video helps, i always feel like i don’t empathize and like i never know the words to say even though i know how they feel
Comment from : @Flatsword

I can tell that while me and someone that I know have similar past When I talk about it people don't empathize with me While with other person thay do
Comment from : @Krisstoof1

Thanks for the video! Now I'm confident that I'm not lacking empathy What I can do next is determine if a person is just telling a story or lowkey venting or asking for advice
Comment from : @lea7rsi

I wish I knew this sooner I would have been more empathetic in my life because I be struggling with this one Good sign is I wanna be better
Comment from : @Synthwave_knight

Thank you so much for this! Extremely helpful
Comment from : @itsOcielia

Thank u girl i wanna be more empathetic
Comment from : @etherealmoonlight67

As a progressive gay leftist vegetarian palestine supporter, i really dont know if its possible to br more empathetic 😂
Comment from : @BryanSchaeber

i looked up how to feel empathy bc i got the news that sombody died and i instinctually reacted with a womp-womp
Comment from : @poki-qh3jj

Thank you this was very helpful for me😊
Comment from : @didifigueroa-cp6dj

Thank you for the advice
Comment from : @greatwyte710

I hate when I here a tragic story but have no empathy, I start to hate myself for it
Comment from : @SnoopyX87

This was awesome and thank you for your time doing this video After 48 years on this earth I am learning to be empathetic now
Comment from : @prodigalsonministry9807

Beautifully explained!
Comment from : @vikramshah8010

Wow, I truly appreciate your poignant observation on my generationI think alot of what made highschool grand was robbed by the social ramifications of the novel coronavirus such a social clubs and highschool dances The fact that so many in generation Z graduated really reflects their personal willpower as a collective and I've read that many have much higher than average grades, this reflects their intelligence I find it interesting and commendable that Gen Z is able to succeed in a world almost demanding of studying near the whir or a personal computer or artifical light or a smartphone, brehbr🖥🖲 googlecom/translate 👈🏿
Comment from : @RR_DM

Like your smile and way of explaination
Comment from : @siddharthjain6791

My guru taught"Truth is the gateway to love" Seek truth and you will find love "You can't give away something you don't have" Wayne Dyer 😍😍
Comment from : @buddhaneosiddhananda8499

lol my "closest" empathy is more like "grow up, cant be that bad, dont believe you, youre only thinking about yourself, somethings wrong with you" even if you were about to off yourself great funbrThe "asking for elaboration" is so farfetched in my world I cannot even imagine anyone saying that
Comment from : @alexanderher7692

This video was very helpful for me, thank you! I think I don't have an empathetic brain but rather a very analytic one, which can definitely kill the empathy sometimes I reckon Although being analytical does result in empathy sometimes, presumably because analyzing does also grow your understanding, I have a tendency of thinking that I understand things too easily That can make me very hard to deal with, in a discussion for example I think often my (pretty strong) opinion overlooks other people's experience, so it was great to see some ways I can consciously think about being empathetic
Comment from : @youpvandijk4144

Thank you it was very well explained
Comment from : @marieliswolfram9087

Maika, I am completing my Mdiv with a concentration in Spiritual Direction This short video is one of the best I have seen regarding empathy and listening Thank you
Comment from : @TomArmstrong48

Thank you, so very helpful I haven't been very well skilled with empathy for the ones I care for sincerely And they deserve sincere deep empathy ❤
Comment from : @manuelsalas1858

I’m a little confused about the difference between paraphrasing and verbalizing
Comment from : @katejohnson9762

1 Listenbr2 Ask for Elaboration br3 Paraphrasing br4 Verbalizedbr5 Validate
Comment from : @JoJo-xo6fh

It's interesting life journey for me that 3 months ago I thought that I lacked negotiation skill My demands were usually strong yet I still felt like influcing people to fulfill the demand was extremely hard and painful for me So I read "Never Split the Difference", it's a book about negotiation that relies heavily on empathy They call it tactical empathy to make it sounds not weak The book literally changed my life It allows me to heal family conflicts and build trust within businessbrToday I'm checking out video on how to be more empathic, something I never envison myself doing at all It's quite amusing actually It all starts from looking at the practical benefit of empathy which is that it's the best tool for influencing peoplebrSo if any of you are not convinced that you need empathy, just realize that it will help you negotiate better, build trust, be more assertive, and influence people It's huge Don't think it's weak If you think being empathetic is weak, just put the word tactical in front of itbrbrAlso I'd like to point out that the key aspect of empathy is demonstration Don't just understand someone and not expressing it That's a huge mistake because it stops them from knowing that you understand and it also stops you from understanding more Book called "Beyond Winning" defines empathy as a demonstration of an understanding, which I agree withbrNow I need to learn to be more empathic with myself because I hold too many thoughts about other people and it causes social anxiety
Comment from : @offchan

I loved your video You are a true hero(in) of our time I'm convinced that Empathy can be learnt and taught and would love to teach it in every school and workplace It will definitely make the world a better place Also I feel that I use all my senses when im being the most empathetic You actually focus this video on listening but what do you think about teaching how to use other senses to complement a kind of toolbox?
Comment from : @samirabbassidi

Your video is helpful but I feel this is more for how to be a better active listener Are they the same of similar?
Comment from : @moonstar381

People never mirror and my experiences with all the empathetic behaviors has been a disappointment They seem to assume my help and interest is not me but attributed to their uniqueness; they're just a rare human with unforgettable charismabrIm taking an empathy moratorium
Comment from : @twilfits

my mom made me watch this :(
Comment from : @circlemen

This is good news! Empathy can be learned!
Comment from : @anc-absolutelynotcertified3421

Eh you know what they say “Fake it ‘til you make it!”
Comment from : @TheChocolatBlanc

Thank you very much your systematic ideas inspire me in preparing a ppt for a catholic high school student in Purwokerto, Indonesia, on emphatic personality in next December Thank you very much 👍👍🙏
Comment from : @suryahamijaya1674

Excellent video Thank you! When one is listening to another with an openness to learn, how do you recommend dealing with a situation when the person speaking states a value or opinion that goes against the listener's values or boundaries? This conflict may cause the listener to feel anxiety and distress by the clash of values or opinions Thanks!
Comment from : @CDV99

Thank you so much! Super helpful
Comment from : @gavintaylor1122

Very good suggestions, than you I will try them out
Comment from : @franl5585

I haven’t finished the video as it is just starting but I am 15 years old and I struggle and think that I don’t care about anything and or anyone I hope this helps
Comment from : @clumsycutely

Great content Microphone is picking up mouth noises
Comment from : @John-om5dm

This should have 2 billion views
Comment from : @abigailmendoza2502

Very well said !!1
Comment from : @UrukramaKulkarny

Thanks I lack sympathy which I do think is the first step towards empathy and i need friends sooo
Comment from : @saturn6563

i wish i could give you more than just a video like thank you
Comment from : @adrianajones7067

wowwamazingwonderfuli love this lesson
Comment from : @NGOPISEDAWO

very helpful Id like to be more empathetic Im a doc and empathy is crucial
Comment from : @bilalhamurabi3362

nice thoughts
Comment from : @theknowlegend

This was really helpful to me I’m a naturally selfish person and I want to be a better friend to people and create genuine connections with friends rather than superficial ones so I’m hoping these tips can help me thank you so much 💙🙏🏼
Comment from : @thatonecreepydoll5527

Patrick King’s, “How to Listen, Hear & Validate” is a GREAT book Read it 3xs, typed all the suggested validation statements in my ph, read them 2-3xs per week Ppl, (esp women) open up to me like CRAZY!! Dope vid btw He mentions everything you’ve stated in his book
Comment from : @shedparker

One of my staff nag me that I always laugh at one of my friend sometimes clumsy or something knock her I always don't have empathy I always smiling and laugh I don't know how to be empathy to others Sometimes I'm rude sometimes i'm always laughing
Comment from : @estherkittygacha6293

I never had empathy but I’m aware and I’m trying my hardest to love my girlfriend
Comment from : @Young-kansei

i used to be very empathetic, unfortunately, i got into drugs and completely lost myself and now i’m trying to return to my roots
Comment from : @m7ssiel

So many beautiful souls who lack empathy We to are human I love each and every one of you
Comment from : @straightbacks

I swear I’ve become more empathetic as a result of listening to Taylor Swift Her music is dripping with emotion, and it’s great practice to try and put myself in her shoes, and feel the emotion she must’ve felt when writing it
Comment from : @Cowface

Sigh , narc trying to study Empathy i hope i can cure it
Comment from : @MansoorAhmed-ts3eg

Great listen! I am currently about to start my clinical to become a certified addiction counselor and I am absolutely going to use these skills Thank you for making a great educational and understandable video!
Comment from : @music98947