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The Single Most Important Parenting Strategy | Becky Kennedy | TED

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I really enjoyed this video, Becky! You brought up some great points about parenting that got me thinking However, I do feel like the emphasis on emotional validation might not always be the best approach Sometimes it seems like kids need structure and discipline even more than understanding their feelings What do you all think?
Comment from : @AbilaBako

Fiction vs reality 😅😂 you have to show your kids who's in charge and why Move on and do not spoil them
Comment from : @7_of_9

Parenting should emcompass empathy, not sympathy, particularly fleeing emotions Kids look up to their parents as leaders of their families, so acting as one anchors them for a life of challenges and responsibilities That is their #1 job
Comment from : @mellow-jello

i like gentle parenting and listening to kids many parents don't do that any more parents are so busy with their own lives they don't even have time for kids this video really makes a lot of sense
Comment from : @hereandabout

Very interesting Thank you!
Comment from : @AnoushSyazanna

Thank you for the good information
Comment from : @온실밖kids

I always apologized to my 6 year old daughter to how I reacted to her she said “it’s ok mom I get frustrated sometimes and have big emotions too” 🥹 always apologize to your kids- we are only human
Comment from : @KendallHaderlein

Outstanding
Comment from : @RobynQuilliam-Taylor

👏👏👏❤
Comment from : @alsindbadland

Wonderful Ted Talk: More parents could use this!!! Thank you Becky Kennedy
Comment from : @AudreyReed-s2n

Complicating your life Another artificial way of losing your mind
Comment from : @PeteRainhard

Psychologists overthinking things brYou shout at your child… say sorry Move on No one is infalliblebrbrHonestly the children of psychologists/ psychiatrists are the weirdest people I know
Comment from : @andrepoon

Great video and an extremely important topic Well done! We also strive to make our content for children useful and of high quality 🥰
Comment from : @etsypetsykids

SO GOOD!! Thank you, Becky!
Comment from : @SuperSmithAdventures

wonderful talk brthanks for making this world a better place
Comment from : @sankaranarayanan901

I needed this today 😭
Comment from : @jalenam87

If this child has ADHD the self blame even worst
Comment from : @n3rdpl0w

Thirty seconds in and it's a hard pass
Comment from : @ReallyDillie

❤❤❤❤❤❤
Comment from : @user-ne1yu8zk6l

نركز ان هو قال لو كل الناس دفعت في ميعادها العميل هيكسب و البنك هيقفل كون ذكي و افهم انت بتشتري ايه و بتصرف ازاي
Comment from : @hagarhamdy6074

Great Talk! Lots of self repair to be done
Comment from : @harshchhabra14

Don't listen to Ted for anything
Comment from : @johndeer-he5de

Very Logic it makes a lot of sense
Comment from : @MulhamMajzoub

Great speech
Comment from : @Angelikapon

thank you very well done powerful i stand in awe also
Comment from : @kaylaryder8371

Do not raise your child alone or a loan You cant let a parent off the hook for not paying child support Stop the hate crimes against women raising children I seen alot of children and single moma moms struggle and go without That is not the women's fault, but the dads Dads do the right thing, regardless
Comment from : @ShariCory

Eine Frage ist allerdings, warum sich das Kind herausnimmt so etwas unverschämtes zu fragen Auch ein Kind sollte in der Lage sein zu erkennen, wann man vielleicht lieber den Mund hält Dadurch lernt das Kind auch, sein Gegenüber zu lesen und nicht immer alles auszusprechen, was es gerade denkt
Comment from : @KevinP-lt6bj

8:13 had me sobbing on the floor [ good tears ] -- trying to overcome generational traumas here and be a better parent
Comment from : @xiaokuer_schmetterling5805

Man, she really got me in the end there with that "imagine you got a call from your parents saying this" brbrNot only clever, but I can’t think of a better example of someone offering hard evidence for their assertion
Comment from : @elfstone8606

Here‘s another one: don’t do Meth!
Comment from : @evilhubert

If there's subtitles on it 1000 more millions will view and learn from this
Comment from : @vaveinetao4305

My small once are just looking at us and learning every word every action because this how they grow up But we all do mistakes and we a product of our parent's and our kids will be ours Now decide how many mistakes and how many rite things
Comment from : @mwhwbymedhavini

Macanada
Comment from : @rubenlop88

Haven't heard Ted talks in a while, but this was gold
Comment from : @rik5430

This is such an easy and powerful way to handle the situation, separate your identity from your behavior, work on yourself, repair yourself and repair with your child Absolute eye opener Thank you Dr Becky
Comment from : @skluhana

the speaker is so hard to listen to even though the subject is very relevant to me - I struggled to get to the end of the short video
Comment from : @ripprind

Decent talkbrbrShe says she is finally filling in a gap in our understanding, but she basically articulated the Biblical view of sin, repentance, and forgiveness (as she should!) The talk is an old idea wrapped in the new therapeutic religion, which is a little ironic because the only time she mentioned sin by name was to demonize it
Comment from : @ws-uf1yb

TIL parent rhymes with parrot
Comment from : @deanwhite4546

Nothing eye opening here My parents divorced when I was very young I had a wonderful father, and a not so great mother I identified and understand this when I was maybe 9 The dichotomy between my two worlds maybe helped
Comment from : @-Swamp_Donkey-

To me, this is the single most important video on YouTube Congrats to Miss Kennedy
Comment from : @AdrianDallegrave

I am not sure I could give that talk myself without choking up every time Beautiful message Thank you
Comment from : @PeteSacco

This talk is needed by every parent and should be watching every month
Comment from : @PhiloTv-qp1km

Im struggling so much being a parent, and we actually just had a blow up… but Ive realized Ive been so selfish lately… And the last part has helped Thank you
Comment from : @LaceyLynneAnna

Poor explanation and too much fluff Ted talks used be short and informative Its Shameful how this ted talk was used no more than a marketing platform for this lady's personal business promotion Makes me wonder are the Ted talk slots open for purchase now?
Comment from : @relaxinfreetime

Uh duh The highest level person in yhis field is giving a ted talk and the advice is the most basic thing possible Respect your kids as individuals and how you eould want others to treat yourself
Comment from : @Ouroboros_FuFu

I dont think being yelled or spanked was overall a bad or traumatic event if you really were in the wrong Those are not the things i look back and say i have trauma for, now being told im not loved that right there was it, my mom was veryverbal with it, whether im doing sumn right or wrong, oberall i forgave her after soul searching, i understood she was growing as well I can yell at my child sometimes and we can talk about it, but most she needs to know shes loved
Comment from : @carolinesspeaks

Truth, i didn't watch the video I just have a question My son is 24 and i made certain promises to him when he was young I promised him as long as he stayed in school and had good grades he wouldn't have to worry about lifes little things I promised to cover the small things like phone, car payments, car insurance and basic spending needs He graduated from UDub with a degree in computer engineering He now makes more money than me We are still on the same phone plan (that i pay for) and a new car insurance (that he pays for) The cost of his phone basically offsets the cost of my share for insurance Ive paid his phone bill ( not to mention his car payment for 6 months after he graduated) He recently found car insurance cheaper than I was paying Je obtained a new policy and is asking me to pay my part to cover me on his policy But, he doesn't want to pay to cover his part of the phone bill because of our previous arrangement about me paying for him How would you deal with it?
Comment from : @kj-yb7ie

How do you do this with an adult relationship? Often times the other person will not accept this and do the same to help avoid in the future Sure im doing it and ill do better but odds are that the inccident will happen again because most adults wont voluntarily do this How do we do this adult relationships?
Comment from : @swisheropp

I get that snapping at the kid was bad, but why are his actions ok? He needs to be taught to be grateful
Comment from : @robertwallace5498

Thank you ❤
Comment from : @ashvinipathirana2583

Thank you for this great video!!brbrWhat if i loose it too often with my child (can loose it a few times a day she manages to drive me madand i feel terrible but lately i have been losing it)brbrIs it still effective to repair even if I screw it up again and again ??br(i hope this won't continue, but unfortunately this is sometimes the situation ):
Comment from : @DebL739

Well said This is exactly what the Bible teaches about love, humility, confession, and reconciliation As a counselor I have to talk about these all the time
Comment from : @OurAcousticSessions

Awesome video 🎉 thanks
Comment from : @arogyapradhanamayurveda566

tell this to asian and middle-eastern parentsyou were spoiled if your self-esteem needs were taken care of
Comment from : @FightForDaPrize

Superb heard it so many times
Comment from : @tanvimakker6091

To be honest her kid was probably way more grateful after that
Comment from : @DanielBlak

Cut to the chase… too much Blabla la
Comment from : @emcee1337

This is how kids never understand they may have done something wrongand don't become good people in the future - they always think it's the other people's faultno matter what they did
Comment from : @theprimer7647

But how does the child learn gratitude in this whole scenario? What if I hadn't shouted at him when he said chicken was boring ?
Comment from : @harishr6740

I cried out of the blue at 13 minutes, at the visceral exercise, thanku ❤❤❤❤
Comment from : @ayeshakhan6279

Am I the only one not holding animosity towards my parents for yelling at me as a kid when I did something stupid?
Comment from : @samanthaallerton3851

ted talk become so deep, thanks becky i'm not a perfect mom, but I have love as big as moon for my daughter and i don't want to hurt her, ever
Comment from : @anisahnabila6378

I was almost always alone, I hated that feeling but I got used to it But my father wanted from me to be ready for the cruel world And I am
Comment from : @tornjak096

Love the talk but the premise that "you are not what you do" (separate you and your behavior) sounds invalid to me
Comment from : @tactapologetics

Sooo you’re apologising to your child for them being an a hole … aaah okay … 👍
Comment from : @Stubs66

I find not yelling helps the most, don’t put yourself in the position of needing to repair
Comment from : @cyrildixon4997

Hello, I'm from west Africa, sometimes when I listen to ao called child Expert in the western or rich countries, they always forget to mention that this theorie only work on their culture, I challenge All of the to try and implement these theories in an African child who was raised in a real African household with their own culture and reality, so they should mention that it only works for centaine people but not all
Comment from : @thiamabdoulaye-vy6ee

optimizing parenting has obviously been the most important thing in the 300 thousand or so years that people have been parenting
Comment from : @ArtMacenzi

Great advice for parents I really like it
Comment from : @irfanbashir7215

Not only parents but also adults should be watched this
Comment from : @dearhacker-cu5bk

I bet everyone in that room was crying
Comment from : @notatheory4488

??? 😅 the child was being ungrateful and nasty You snap I think they need to self reflect on what they did You can certainly go talk to them afterwards… you certainly should apologize if you acted out of self regulation and lost control But I would make it known how disappointed I am by their ungrateful behavior
Comment from : @happypizza9115

The strategy should be… not yelling at the kid in the first place
Comment from : @moturisandeep

This is the best example that billionaires and smart people like Elon isn’t always right
Comment from : @diannesaliente4233

If you need real practical advice, ask an older parent who have grown kids
Comment from : @pumpthewater419

So repair actually means just to apologise
Comment from : @mehreensajan7416

No, not all parents yell
Comment from : @Mervin-Mullet

“child not causing your behaviour “ that’s incorrect statement isn’t it? The cause of a whole situation is a child’s behaviour It doesn’t take away parent’s responsibility but admitting the obvious is quite misleading
Comment from : @legatodi3000

Yup! What’s she calls repair I call to apologize and I have done it so many times with my little man I say sorry and talk to him and say that he is doing great and explain that being an adult can be stessful sometimes I tell him I love him and I need to stop being a meany Kids are smart, they listen As a parent you can mess up but if you say sorry, talk to them and give them love…you good YEAHHH!!!
Comment from : @Gabrielsancheese

great video, Becky! I appreciate the insights you shared however, I wonder if the focus on just one strategy might oversimplify the complexities of parenting every child is unique, and what works for one might not work for another just a thought!
Comment from : @ushskahshehaikah

Repair I love hearing that I’ve been learning NVC and it’s an amazing tool for doing just that
Comment from : @SuperRicky1974

It is preposterous to claim that all the parents yel!! Coming this from a psy is more appoling to me Maibe most of the parents tell, but definitely not all
Comment from : @fabianmitrache5799

Accountability is definitely a great quality many parents should have in correlation with our children and the faults we make with them We should apologize with real intention when we are wrong
Comment from : @Blackdadican

Don’t be a single parent!
Comment from : @re-engineeringme9758

❤
Comment from : @anahi10515

She made me cry in the last imagined exercise Thank you
Comment from : @lovedaisy_0728

wow love this great tips for any meningful relationship :)
Comment from : @wellnesssakshi

13:08 the why am I crying… that’s me- Ive tried this I would kill for my mom to just listen to me brbrNow all I get is eye rolls and grumbles as if all I do is blame all my problems on my childhood when I am actually trying to explain to my mom that I’m trying to not repeat history
Comment from : @ModernMomma

Okay, this is the single most important TED Talk ever! As a parent of four, I have experience this Repair multiple times, and they really work both for me and for my kids
Comment from : @diegomonteirobatera