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What are the boundaries of helping family with money?

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One dollar ask is the boundary, reference to dictionary
Comment from : @ninibibiful

My sisters and I pay my parents rent and my father goes out and gets a new note on a brand new truck I'm so mad
Comment from : @rodolfomancha7438

why are you paying her bills for eight or nine years? You need to just stop What did she do with the money that she stole? She needs to get her act together You're the child You don't need to be supporting her This is a mess Your mother needs to grow up
Comment from : @janhatcher6991

She’s sorry she got caught This is addict behavior
Comment from : @BusArch42

I think church is the best thing people have to realize that (believe in god or not) the cost of sin is death and if you continue to sin nothing you do will fix the mistake you can enjoy a simple poor life but sin will always lead to death now if you repent and actually repent, there is hope but you have to accept your shortcomings and carry your cross daily
Comment from : @kingmikez0559

How old is she, i will move the earth for my queen
Comment from : @kabzakathunder3323

Indeed
Comment from : @turtleanton6539

I truly think every son and or daughter deserves to have keep their own money to have it for the family they will create I could never as healthy and self-awared man ask my children for monetary help and here they are looking to me as their role model That is why i sacrafrice and prepare for not just today but tomorrow so i would not be in these situations If anything i want to pass my wealth forward and teach them how to maintain rather them pass it backwards
Comment from : @calebhenderson6507

Thank you Dave, for your sound wisdom on this tough issue
Comment from : @timjohnshort

no, stop giving her money She's an adult She's your mother wouldn't poor example she's showing for her children She needs to make her own own way in life
Comment from : @janhatcher6991

I HOPE PEOPLE AT LEAST HELP FEED THIER FAMILY WITH THE BASICS
Comment from : @KimberlyRikal-cu2cu

"She is remorseful, but" When a statement is followed by "but," it kind of negates the statement
Comment from : @helenhilton2158

give what you can, not what they want
Comment from : @mikeohagan2206

Write mom off
Comment from : @db1176

My family is looking very good after this call😂
Comment from : @jorgeaparicio1202

I'm here because I had enough 😢
Comment from : @anrevlyn

7:44
Comment from : @DawnMaxwell-y4z

Poor Poor Pitiful me, Need to stay away from those people
Comment from : @leofredette19

Dave - someday I want to give the crash course in senior survival You can’t wait till “I’m retiring next month with no money” Start about five years before retirement I’m 77, live alone, had no opportunity for a pension since I ended up raising the kids alone At 60, I got my name on every subsidized senior housing development Kids are grown so every cent went to debt Sell everything because you are scaling down I have a beautiful garden apartment $350 rent and utilities No debt, 5 months emergency funds, car is paid off and my credit score is 822 My social security is $1557 net I don’t qualify for food stamps or Medicaid I’ve forgotten what a restaurant looks like and other than birthday and Christmas gifts for the grandchildren, spend nothing extra But I’ve never asked my kids for anything nor expect it, but I want to yell at people “PLAN AHEAD “!!
Comment from : @MrsEJV

I’ll simplify and make what Ramsay is sayingbrbrHang your mother out to drybrbrShe dug her own holebrbrShe’ll bury you along with herself
Comment from : @adonaiel-rohi2460

I would never reward bad behavior
Comment from : @Andrew-3445

Just so you know, her admitting it to the police is not going to help her out
Comment from : @Longjohnsilver58

You can’t just throw money at people who will not change There’s not enough money on the planet to help them and you’re not helping them You’re participating in their insanity You’re not helping them get dignity You’re not helping them have a futurebrbrThanks 🙌
Comment from : @honeysensei3671

Perhaps she doesn’t know how to change
Comment from : @renayhayles6883

😢
Comment from : @renayhayles6883

Biggest problem is her mother expects someone to bail her out
Comment from : @lynnebucher6537

Gambling addiction? Tough situation when it’s mom
Comment from : @donaldrichey3318

Tell them you are broke too Boom fixed your problem!
Comment from : @TheSteveo4423

Jennifer, this was ALL DUE TO YOUR MOTHERS' Decisions YOU OWE HER NOTHING Tell her, Oh well
Comment from : @pattyajones

Perhaps the local welfare agency will pay her rent and there might be a food bank and there may be jobs available
Comment from : @David53D

Why do so many Boomer parents want to control/use their adult children?!? What is their problem?
Comment from : @twiston43

Mom needs to spend some time in the pokey, IMO
Comment from : @OurBelovedBungo

So she's not ashamed of embezzling, but she seems to be embarrassed about getting caught
Comment from : @johnmeakin3974

My family is far from perfect, but these stories are crazy I'm glad to have at least a decent family Thank goodness
Comment from : @enlightenedidiot9552

honestly i really dont understand that mindset how can you feel entitled to take a family member's money? even with my parents growing up, i never expected money from them makes me feel sick
Comment from : @ep94-v7j

Help a friend out before you help any family member cause a family member will burn you deeper longer and harder than any friend will
Comment from : @davidfoulk3078

Don't do it They for the streets
Comment from : @easyDoes1T85

I pray that my relatives to have the same determination as i am to make some good money
Comment from : @NoahPARK82

$1500 is probably a drop in the bucket! Further investigation would find out that there is more missing funds!
Comment from : @Brightstarlivesteam

They scare you with suicide attempts if you dont give money What to do? My Anxiety is too high
Comment from : @celebrityfam1672

Poor girl I feel so bad to hear this
Comment from : @Danny-sx6cj

Not a good idea to hurt your own finances to aid a thiefbrbrDon't let a known thief move inbrbrHer mom created her own problemsbrShe'd not going to need to pay rent soon She'd going to get a stay in the grey bar hotel
Comment from : @fhuber7507

As the world turns wit Mr Ramsey 😢😞
Comment from : @evalina98000

Never a good idea to ever give money to someone If they have rent or car payments due and you want to help, pay the landlord or the finance company directly My bet is that you will learn their were asking for more than they owe They wanted you to pay rent plus 300 for their pocket They will ask why you don’t trust them
Comment from : @HoustonTom

41@ friends!I am a student of veterinary medical UniversityI ask you for financial assistance to continue my studies at the @t wife died and I was left with two childrenI live on the territory not controlled by UkraineI want to raise funds for myself and my children to move abroad,make the children comfortable,and continue studying and working part-time in a veterinary clinic to treat animalsIf each of you throws Menna one dollar it will be more than enough, because together we are a force!brWebmoneyEuro:E647756663508,Dollar:Z111469348965PayPal:solodovnik14@@t
Comment from : @Cicerone25

Don’t do it EVER You do it once, they’ll expect it in perpetuity “You did it before, why not nooooow?!”
Comment from : @hothotheat3000

Yeah, I came here looking for advice helping my mom and I realize my situation is pretty tame
Comment from : @BradColemanisHere

Bet its not the first time she's stolen
Comment from : @steve41557

Tell friends and family asking for money this, "Sorry to hear that If I had the money I would give it to you, I just don't have it"
Comment from : @av8tor261

These lazy money monglers makes me sick
Comment from : @Villarrea11

Good griefapparently helping her mom didn't help before It won't now
Comment from : @CM-fw6hz

I need help money plsssssbrNameali bin abdullah amodibrAcount no32270133807brIfsc noSBIN0003449brSbi bank
Comment from : @aliamodi2708

Sadly, my wife and I are not on the same page with money I have quit enabling her spending problem Her disability check(not handicapped) which is $700 is gone within 7 days We average 3-4 packages a week showing up to the house but her car is always needing gas and she can never help pay for anything Financial misbehavior comes in all shapes and sizes
Comment from : @austinselleck9484

She admitted it to the police, so she lost the court case before it began
Comment from : @brandonrides8953

The one word that comes to mind with many of these calls is: Enabling You are harming someone when you simply offer a bail out, especially if there is no indication the person is willing to modify their negative behaviors
Comment from : @jackjones3657

Fear is always a great motivator
Comment from : @bobmarker6812

At least her mother raised a wonderful daughter, so she must have done something right
Comment from : @hadiyahalkauthar

:55 seconds voice clearly changes, liedtotally knew about the crime
Comment from : @stephencrutchfield2032

Bad parents probably came from bad parents and it usually takes strength of character to break the cycle and do better for future generations The mom didn’t have the strength of character to identify unhealthy behaviour and change but the daughter has so she should be sympathetic to her mom as a human but she doesn’t owe her anything cause she didn’t ask to be born
Comment from : @nadinelewis411

Moms an dad love the I took care of u feed gave you a home
Comment from : @jborrego2406

Judge people is hard because human kind fails
Comment from : @elizabethstadler2775

If they don't feel like they should ever have to pay you back, do bnot/b lend them moneybrThat's how I like to think about it I'd only ever help someone that acknowledges the money I gave them was never theirs
Comment from : @maskedfoxx7173

Let my father in law borrow money br I think he figures cause there retired and broke from spending money on dumb stuff and he thinks I make a good salary brThey don’t have to pay me brbackbr Took advice from Bronx tale brThey longer borrow me about money
Comment from : @MrVic820

My boyfriend's brother in law has been leeching him off every week he asks for 500$ and cause of it my boyfriend stays in alot of stress and the thing is he never pays him back he feels entitled to his income There's a point of helping somebody but this is just too much And my boyfriend says if i don't pay him i feel like he's gonna treat my sister wrong and it's just too much headache Idk any solution
Comment from : @vutekoaalu4188

I highly agree with Dave on this Help her to help herself, if she's willing, but she must perform, not just play victimhood!
Comment from : @1redrubberball

so take care of your parents
Comment from : @rofflesufunny

My family keeps asking me for money I’m getting sick of being their bank
Comment from : @nathanmcdaniel2557

She can go to welfare and apply for Public Assistance she'll get food stamps, insurance, bus tokens ,JOB COUNSELING br Mom needs to at least show the courts she's got a job BEFORE CONVICTED
Comment from : @lindaleelaw5277

Wife married a mama's boy brWomen if Mommy is ever present
Comment from : @lindaleelaw5277

I’m also wondering if there is more to the story such as a gambling addiction
Comment from : @LoriLev1107

Go, to, JAIL!!
Comment from : @ThePeterDislikeShow

Dave what are your thoughts of talking to your family members about the dangers of loaning each money long before the opportunity ever arises so that the question doesn't even come up in the first place?
Comment from : @ThePeterDislikeShow

Yeah, my mother hasn’t been arrested but, I see bad financial behavior and I’m willing to let ember lose her home, if need be because I think that the way she sees it, I wouldn’t let her lose her home because I was to inherit it But, the reality is that she’s decided to make me wait, while she lets my sister move into the other home my sister is to inherit, after my sister has mostly been absent for decades The logistics are that I don’t expect my mother to move to convenience me, but I know what she’s doing I would have “0” problem telling her to move in with my sister or to get an apartment She’s been destroying the home from the inside out for years now anyway
Comment from : @privateprivate8366

Caller, please learn how to speak without all the conversation fillers, ie "you know", "so ", and "actually"
Comment from : @nhgriff1

Her mother needs to go to rehab! She has too many crackhead behaviors This is passed money problem
Comment from : @MC-mn8iu

Saying "you know" repeatedly does not convey what you are trying to say or ask Get your facts and thoughts together before you call
Comment from : @nhgriff1

Maybe she should have stole enough to get her out of her trouble Oh well
Comment from : @kenya1067

Very few ppl can give birth to ubrI'm with ramsey, she needs to changebrBut the daughter sure has had difficult times too I'd stick with my mother thru thick and thin♡♡♡♡
Comment from : @LittleHatori

I have a family member who is a chronic alcoholic and now due to his violent domestic marriage He’s in jail He and his wife are violent now he’s in jail with a bail of $300000 cash in order to get out He claims that he has $100000 cash and $2500 in credit card spending We live in different states He has asked me for the money and if he goes to his obligations of courts the money will be returned The only time I’m contacted is only in crisis I’m not sure who spoke of me possibly having money but it seems like this is a big “quick fix” bail out if I help him The bail also goes over some daily spending limits of min Trying to figure this hour has caused me great anxiety and heart palpitations (literally) He’s not been supportive of me in my great times of need I would hate fo him to loose his job but I also don’t want to me the “fix it” person as these situations/crisis I was supportive before (excluding bail fees) I really don’t have it to spare but knowing I can get it back is promising I just don’t real trust his alcoholism will be a factor He was already out of jail to complete his alcohol testing I’m so worried cause I don’t want to be selfish but I also do want to be the problem solver when his situations are preventable
Comment from : @AngieMusicArt

Drug addiction?
Comment from : @mattwesley4435

Whatever you doDON'T let your unemployed family move in with you!
Comment from : @Essays4College

I would tell your mother to go to the welfare dept They are obligated to help her find a jobThe day she goes they will give her cash aid, medical insur and food stamps If she can't get a job when she goes on interviews, she still keeps cash aid, medical, and food stamps until she gets a job Also tell them that you are only loaning her the money because if you say you gave it to her, they may not give her all the benefits right away
Comment from : @karenkramer3760