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Carol Dweck on Perfectionism

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15:39 omg that's me! madam please stop you're so loudddddd
Comment from : @user-ic5xl3bk5u

😅 Fabulous struggle
Comment from : @lydiahmwaniki1495

😂
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omg this is literally life changing
Comment from : @LordyJordy23

❤
Comment from : @navideology

Please thank you
Comment from : @letstalk-life-PL

Thank you!
Comment from : @BehindtheMuscle

- are you a perfectionist? PAM SCOTT survey wisdom: the most difficult and challenging thing is to give up perfection and be myself br - trying to stay perfect in other's eyesbr - striving towards excellence - lets not this br- two types of mindsetbr - fixed mindsetbr - growth mindsetbr- examplesbr - studentsbr - companybr - relationshipbr - role modelsbr - sports peoplebr - effort; effort makes u feel inadequate, undermined confidence, effortless success (duck syndrome) vs effort is cherished, i had a fabulous struggle, worked hard for something we valuebr - errors/setbacks: calamities, surest sign of incompetence vs i had a fabr - taking what they were good at vs taking challenge: br - brain what happens when we have errors? nothing happened vs anterior cingulate cortex (ACC), detecting processing and correctingbr - cheatingbr - liebr- 2 examples of journalist who fabricated stories: cheat vs talented people who scummed under fixed mindsetbr- Becoming is better than beingbr- paper on herobr- growth mindset can be taughtbr - pushing out of comfort zone -> over time becomes better; like a musclebr- consequencebr - meaning changes of effort and difficultiesbr - if i did it quickly, it was easy -> push outself out of it, it is waste of time, something hard, that is juicybr - Let's flounder
Comment from : @tmfelwu

The irony of this I'm a workaholic and my therapist has said I'm a perfectionist (as well as multiple friends/family members) The idea of not putting effort into something is weird to me, I work hard and always try my best, yet I still feel like nothing I do is good enough So how does that relate to her discussion around the fixed Vs growth mindset?
Comment from : @amberliberte5138

She had me until she started trying to groom the baby into a growth mind set
Comment from : @casteretpollux

I have been feeling depressed ,anxious and lost sometime now after college This video has taught me a lot about myself and my thinking path Thanks so much Prof Carol Dweck and the producers of this program I am grateful I found this
Comment from : @beatriceafatsawo8305

This is a brilliant must watch presentation
Comment from : @jocelynmuch

This was a great talk and has aged like fine wine The summary I'd give (but please listen to this as a podcast) is you'll do better by focusing on becoming the best version of you, as oppose to being perfect
Comment from : @ashooaway

Thanks
Comment from : @mosin9105

Critical Race Theory is so much fixed mind set Blame Blame Blame
Comment from : @user-wr4yl7tx3w

31:40 ❤️
Comment from : @andrea-th5sg

Felt a thousand pounds lighter at the end of this
Comment from : @zincminus3793

Fantastic fantastic seminar!!! So happy i found this because I have some growing to do!!😂
Comment from : @galaxylucia1898

Is she implying that people with fixed mindset are "Perfectionists" and vice versa
Comment from : @amitdahal2654

what is the best between fixed mindset and growth mindset based on everyday life?
Comment from : @Wahalaking04

In Colombia, and probably other Latin countries, we have a saying that goes “lo perfecto es enemigo de lo bueno” which translate to “perfect things are the enemy of good things” I feel like she did a marvelous job of elaborating on that
Comment from : @26willyvan

Lou Reed at beginning??
Comment from : @cliffdariff74

මම ධනවත් ආදරණීය විශ්ව මාතාවට ස්තුතියි
Comment from : @srinathravindra93

I like Carol (:
Comment from : @gnuPirate

I love her example of "Blaming Morris" so much, I'm going to use that
Comment from : @claudinevasquez3092

that turns a human being into a human becoming
Comment from : @martinleise

"The hard work of learning HOW"
Comment from : @Colls-m8i

Everything important in life requires huge amounts of effort over long periods of timebrIf effort makes you feel inadequate, incompetentbrYou're at a huge disadvantage
Comment from : @CrimsonStrider

She is so beautiful
Comment from : @abhinandantiwari8158

Thank you for this, you might have saved my life Mrs
Comment from : @thiagobohn4580

I really need this I'm still working on it though, it's so difficult being a perfectionist with a fixed mindset I'm afraid of failure and disappointment
Comment from : @_cyrille

Fixed mindset for validation from others…growth mindset driven internally
Comment from : @kirstenshindler7767

THANK YOUU
Comment from : @RB-rl3lo

Thank you
Comment from : @aminaassannam8252

Now perhaps if life were one large schoolroom, it would be okay to stay perfect But life isn't like thatthis hits me hard I was so perfect at school that's why my life is so miserable today What she was telling is absolutely true in my case I was so afraid to take challenges during my school time inorder to stay perfect and smart with the fixed mindset 😭
Comment from : @sangeedarshi7423

35:40
Comment from : @hiimdaisy946

This message was meant for me this morning Was contemplating quitting my long term plan because there's an easier way out I listened all the way through Thanks Carol for a clear and practical talk Pity that this gem of a video hasn't reached more people
Comment from : @Lily-kh8dc

Thank you
Comment from : @naping

Carol brings deeper comprehension of spoken subject Amazing speaker with dimensional growth mindset :)brIndeed, perfectionism is only an approach Mind can always seek better solutions, machine learning can always be upgraded, software can always be debugged There is natural and evolutionary algorithm for growth Thats all we really need :)
Comment from : @karolinaurbaniak8524

"becoming is better than being"
Comment from : @hafsakhan5626

It's kinda sad how schools glorify such "perfectionists" which makes it so hard to get out of this fixed mindset
Comment from : @hafsakhan5626

Dr Dweck’s message is spot on! I just wish she’d drop a piece of paper, or accidently close her Mac, or stumble on just 1 word Nope She’s flawless and a lovable recovering perfectionist to reveal herself Growth mindset helps my Reading students to be more naturally flexible and resilient and daring to take risksand enjoy learning I grew up w a perfect sibling and I had curly naturally defiant hair, so I accepted my imperfections as features, not bugsas they say;) Life’s short Plunge into learning how to have more un-structured funnature hikes, music, art!
Comment from : @lcclark1307

When I’ve made biig mistakes (first husband, or a job) i say “That was a good bad experience!” Code for: I learned alot! Geesh!
Comment from : @lcclark1307

I have the bad kind of perfectionism I am consistently surprised and confused by people's positive reactions to things I do/produce that I think are crap You'd think that the consistent results would clue me in It's not a simple case of knowing that perfectionism is bad, so don't do it I'm missing something
Comment from : @letsgoBrandon204

Perfectionism would be leveling out the stereo so that I don't feel dizzy from the ever-changing balance D:
Comment from : @Teh-Penguin

Hey Joey
Comment from : @evans4140

Fantastic!brThank you for bringing this available <3
Comment from : @Mindseas

Ms Dweck that's fantastic Thank you!
Comment from : @Archipelagance

She is such an inspiration :-)
Comment from : @unicornsarereal8484

De struggle itself toward perfection is enough to fill a man’s heart brbrI must imagine Sisyphus happy
Comment from : @satnamo

I am definitely a fixed mindset shit! Now that I know that, does it mean I'll have to embrace struggles?
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Comment from : @berthaalina5422

she is delightful !
Comment from : @Claerdelune

This video is such a callout
Comment from : @johnappleseed3048

what do you do when you are surrounded by fixed mindset supervisors and managers?
Comment from : @nathanrichardson8402

She seems to be talking about the extremes, the pathological fixed mindset and the very accomplished people with a growth mindset, perhaps for simplification purposes I can see how most ‘perfectionists’ might gravitate on a scale between these extremes and probably express both mindsets, sometimes at the same time, in various degrees
Comment from : @adriana421

That was such an interesting lecture to hear I've learnt so much from the analysis of this concept I'm a teacher, and I will be applying this approach with my students 👍🏻🙏🏻
Comment from : @y888-w2m

love her x
Comment from : @bogumilastanek4049

omg what she's talking about are exactly things i've just been thinking recentlychills
Comment from : @yoyoyo5621

She need to make ASMR videos 😴 zZzZZz
Comment from : @MAGNETO-i1i

Thank you so much for your lecture Carol! I have been feeling extremely depressed, lost, and anxious lately and you’ve just given me the answers and insight I’ve been looking for I feel so much more at peace now
Comment from : @sunshine

So I should look up to Rock Lee instead of Shikamaru
Comment from : @ElNegringoKreyolito

Thanks for showing me the mirror , Perfectionist like me do not deserve to own a pet
Comment from : @Useruytrw

Fucking Maurice! At it again
Comment from : @Liz-sc3np

The audio on this isn't perfect 😅
Comment from : @Tazmanian_Ninja

Play at 15 speed
Comment from : @largeinsize1

Amazing presentation I'm such an important topic students should not be shamed for making mistakes they should celebrate their mistakes because that's how they learn
Comment from : @aquamarine0023

Thank you for this I had never heard of these two different types of mindsets A lot of things clicked and it’s the biggest gift in the world to know nothing is permanent nor set on stone
Comment from : @lilijimenez3629

18:41 me right now realizing how PERFECTLY fucked up I am
Comment from : @monicaleon2601

15x and you can't go back
Comment from : @KhantNPi

"Growth-ism" <3 :)
Comment from : @maramhesham2147

I learn a lot by watching your videos at lunchtime Thank you so much for sharing all this great information :)
Comment from : @marthamartinez6321

Perfectionism leads to paralysis - often they achieve little you do your best and be considerate of others
Comment from : @brianeduardo1234

We ARE praising the wrong things
Comment from : @DMRoper1

The varnish on that podium needs work, and there is a wrinkle in her shirt This video ends at forty minutes and seven seconds It should end on an even forty
Comment from : @boboloko

Thanks carol
Comment from : @vivisilv13

Now it is clear for me The carol
Comment from : @vivisilv13

Every American should be required to watch this once a week for the rest of their lives
Comment from : @marksoberay2318

Beautiful, beautiful talk I love the idea of embracing struggle After all isn't life at least partly struggle? so why should it be bad?
Comment from : @blakiecakes419

perfectionism cripples so many people
Comment from : @josermtz

From me honesty is a very expensive gift from God 😇
Comment from : @rosaruby757

My compassion not intimidation earns respect 😱😇
Comment from : @rosaruby757

I love and I want to be side of one good an intellectual lady like Miss Carol ( excellent ) love you miss Dweck 😘😇
Comment from : @rosaruby757

Miss Carol is a adorable grateful person _ in every aspect and concept ( her voice sotf spoken ) can feel have very low profile attitude 😄😇
Comment from : @rosaruby757

Voice is one assets of one people ( if how to make out the voice on proper spell😇 the people voice first impression who is talking if you see one deserving person you have glad feelings in the heart and mind because all can spell words have truth 😱
Comment from : @rosaruby757

This cute lady really I love her voice ( salute ) 😇
Comment from : @rosaruby757

Lou Reed was the man
Comment from : @ozzy5628

I was recently speaking to my significant other about how things that came easy to me, I mastered, ans things that didn't, I avoided if I can't do it perfectly, I won't do it at all
Comment from : @danlc95

someone get carol a coffee
Comment from : @mohibilahi9109

A beautiful talk and a powerful message I feel so much more enlightened now on how to deal with my own debilitating perfectionism
Comment from : @blakiecakes419

INCREDIBLE VIDEO!! I struggle with an actually paralyzing fixed mindset I want to change and start growing :) thanks school of life and Carol Dwek!
Comment from : @sophiabeglari8705

125 is the normal speed
Comment from : @Elkx2121

Perfection is overrated & completely under appreciated & often hated by others - just speaking from personal experience
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